I desperately wanted to join a cult, any cult, in part one. I’ve had my share of unfairness and injustice but nobody or nothing else made me want to join a cult group as much as the woman who gave birth to me. I wanted to see her get the same treatment she meted […]
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Conversations around women’s bodies and the idea of the ‘perfect victim’. … Last week Sunday, a medical students’ association WhatsApp group I am on had a discussion about a video of a young woman who on dressing “indecently” was harassed by a group of men while one guy tried fending off her harassors and she
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I have kissed many frogs in my life and while kissing them, I didn’t even know they were frogs. I was genuinely not aware, I thought there weren’t anything else to kiss, asides frogs. I really didn’t know anything about boys because my grandmother asked me to stay away from them, at least until I
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Heterosexual men have been taught and learned to depend on women to help them express their emotions. Many of us are unable to feel emotionally alive except through relationships with women. Perfect breeding for codependency & one of the reasons patriarchy loves women submitting. We use women to validate our masculinity and that contributes
My friend, Grace (not real name); Her mother died a few years ago. Grace is from Nsukka, Northern Igbo land in Nigeria. Before her mother died, she acted as though she was mentally ill. Rumor had it that her mother slept with other men aside from her husband and just before dying, she was made
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Let’s talk about Social Media and Feminism. If there is something Nigerian women should be grateful for, it is the ability to share our thoughts via Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok. I mean, the chances that anybody harms you is next to nothing. You can be anonymous. Feminism in Nigeria gained momentum because of Social
As a Nigerian, have you ever imagined a world where women asked for men’s hands in marriage and men were asked to stay at home and care for the children? As a male, have you ever imagined getting arrested for masturbating? What if you were living in an alternate universe where men acted women’s roles
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Beauty standards are insane. Before we started keeping up with the Kardashians, Brazilian Butt Lift was not so popularised. I remember trying to do everything in my power to grow my butt. Like, I was busy doing squats and I can’t forget the day I almost fell in a banking hall because my thighs were
Sometimes this year, something similar to this 12k restaurant saga also happened to me. It was the first time and I was calm throughout because luckily, I had backup. I don’t care if we’re meeting in an open space or whatever. As long as I’m meeting someone with a penis, with anyone who identifies
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Aluta lubricant. I have NEVER heard this sexist insult in my life. You know where I came across it? I didn’t even see it among afamails. You would expect to see this among Shola’s Twitter circle but no, it was used in a Nigerian socialist circle! All because the woman in question
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