Women, please be clear what you want from your relationships with men. I think it pays women to be clear about what they want from relationships with men. It has saved me from so much hassles and it’s a huge red flag when you ask for your interaction to be defined and the other party …
BRIDE PRICE is referred to as lobola in the southern parts of the continent, mahari in East Africa, wine carrying among tribes in West Africa, and owó orí among the tribe I come from (Yoruba). I remember quite well how my Yoruba teacher gave me my first lessons on marriage customs and traditions in …
I hate bras. And I’m pretty sure I’m not the only woman who always wonders exactly WHY bras are made some sort of necessities in every woman’s wardrobe. I believe no woman would find any need to be wearing bras right now but for patriarchy that’s obsessed with controlling women’s bodies; always telling …
Sometimes this year, something similar to this 12k restaurant saga also happened to me. It was the first time and I was calm throughout because luckily, I had backup. I don’t care if we’re meeting in an open space or whatever. As long as I’m meeting someone with a penis, with anyone who identifies …
Aluta lubricant. I have NEVER heard this sexist insult in my life. You know where I came across it? I didn’t even see it among afamails. You would expect to see this among Shola’s Twitter circle but no, it was used in a Nigerian socialist circle! All because the woman in question …
I get “you don’t look Yoruba” a lot and I’d go: “Oh, it’s because I’m mixed but my father is dead”. It’s not factually true but it saves me a lot of stress and awkwardness on the listener’s part because I’m not ashamed of my story, I’m not the one who would feel awkward. …
Pretty or beautiful is a subjective adjective and I’ve always thought I had a pretty face but not a pretty body… Until recently. And my confidence spiked, and I’ve been regaling in all my sensuality. This year, however, I’ve been getting a lot of male attention especially on the streets and it has, in …
First of all, I’ll open the floor by saying Simi’s WOMAN should blow more than it did and be getting awards upon awards but nah, it’s a patriarchal society and she herself “no be woman” by singing this song. How dare she? I was born in 1996 and I’m in my right to say …
THE SEVEN NECESSARY SINS FOR WOMEN AND GIRLS. 1. ANGER: You must be very angry at patriarchy. 2. ATTENTION: Command attention, you deserve it. 3. PROFANITY: You should freely say “fuck.” 4. AMBITION: Take up space and own it. 5. POWER: Aspire to have it. 6. VIOLENCE: Do not hesitate to choose vawulence. 7. LUST: …
Humans have a very weird relationship with money and women’s bodies and this is how. Humans woke up one day, decided to give pieces of papers values and categorized people as “rich” or “poor” based on the amount of these pieces of paper they have. Calling money “pieces of paper” has stripped money of …