That anomalies exist means ‘gender=reproductive system’ isn’t as neat a definition as bioessentialists claim. It means that a woman may be someone who may have XX chromosomes but be missing core reproductive organs. It means it may someone who has some female internal organs but doesn’t have a vagina. It means it may be someone …
Women, please be clear what you want from your relationships with men. I think it pays women to be clear about what they want from relationships with men. It has saved me from so much hassles and it’s a huge red flag when you ask for your interaction to be defined and the other party …
As a Nigerian, have you ever imagined a world where women asked for men’s hands in marriage and men were asked to stay at home and care for the children? As a male, have you ever imagined getting arrested for masturbating? What if you were living in an alternate universe where men acted women’s roles …
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Beauty standards are insane. Before we started keeping up with the Kardashians, Brazilian Butt Lift was not so popularised. I remember trying to do everything in my power to grow my butt. Like, I was busy doing squats and I can’t forget the day I almost fell in a banking hall because my thighs were …
BRIDE PRICE is referred to as lobola in the southern parts of the continent, mahari in East Africa, wine carrying among tribes in West Africa, and owó orí among the tribe I come from (Yoruba). I remember quite well how my Yoruba teacher gave me my first lessons on marriage customs and traditions in …
An average number of ten thousand cases of rape occur every day in Nigeria only. While 5% sought help, just 3.8% got help. Most of these rape victims that AREN’T DEAD struggle with depression and other kinds of mental health related problems due to stigmatisation. Why are my emphasis on these numbers, you might want …
I hate bras. And I’m pretty sure I’m not the only woman who always wonders exactly WHY bras are made some sort of necessities in every woman’s wardrobe. I believe no woman would find any need to be wearing bras right now but for patriarchy that’s obsessed with controlling women’s bodies; always telling …
Sometimes this year, something similar to this 12k restaurant saga also happened to me. It was the first time and I was calm throughout because luckily, I had backup. I don’t care if we’re meeting in an open space or whatever. As long as I’m meeting someone with a penis, with anyone who identifies …
Aluta lubricant. I have NEVER heard this sexist insult in my life. You know where I came across it? I didn’t even see it among afamails. You would expect to see this among Shola’s Twitter circle but no, it was used in a Nigerian socialist circle! All because the woman in question …
I get “you don’t look Yoruba” a lot and I’d go: “Oh, it’s because I’m mixed but my father is dead”. It’s not factually true but it saves me a lot of stress and awkwardness on the listener’s part because I’m not ashamed of my story, I’m not the one who would feel awkward. …