My friend, Grace (not real name); Her mother died a few years ago. Grace is from Nsukka, Northern Igbo land in Nigeria. Before her mother died, she acted as though she was mentally ill. Rumor had it that her mother slept with other men aside from her husband and just before dying, she was made …
Let’s talk about Social Media and Feminism. If there is something Nigerian women should be grateful for, it is the ability to share our thoughts via Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok. I mean, the chances that anybody harms you is next to nothing. You can be anonymous. Feminism in Nigeria gained momentum because of Social …
Women, please be clear what you want from your relationships with men. I think it pays women to be clear about what they want from relationships with men. It has saved me from so much hassles and it’s a huge red flag when you ask for your interaction to be defined and the other party …
BRIDE PRICE is referred to as lobola in the southern parts of the continent, mahari in East Africa, wine carrying among tribes in West Africa, and owó orí among the tribe I come from (Yoruba). I remember quite well how my Yoruba teacher gave me my first lessons on marriage customs and traditions in …
An average number of ten thousand cases of rape occur every day in Nigeria only. While 5% sought help, just 3.8% got help. Most of these rape victims that AREN’T DEAD struggle with depression and other kinds of mental health related problems due to stigmatisation. Why are my emphasis on these numbers, you might want …
I get “you don’t look Yoruba” a lot and I’d go: “Oh, it’s because I’m mixed but my father is dead”. It’s not factually true but it saves me a lot of stress and awkwardness on the listener’s part because I’m not ashamed of my story, I’m not the one who would feel awkward. …
Among many people of Igbo land, there is a customary inheritance system called “Iri-ekpe”, a common practice among most Igbo communities with a central belief that a man is inherited at his death by his surviving male children. Where a man dies without marrying or is not survived by any son(s), his estate is inherited …
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It was shining that day before it suddenly began to rain. I hurried up with lightning the charcoal stove before I took it to the verandah behind our kitchen where I would soon cook a pot of vegetable soup. Inside me was a mixture of fear and disappointment: disappointment that it was raining in the …
First of all, I’ll open the floor by saying Simi’s WOMAN should blow more than it did and be getting awards upon awards but nah, it’s a patriarchal society and she herself “no be woman” by singing this song. How dare she? I was born in 1996 and I’m in my right to say …
THE SEVEN NECESSARY SINS FOR WOMEN AND GIRLS. 1. ANGER: You must be very angry at patriarchy. 2. ATTENTION: Command attention, you deserve it. 3. PROFANITY: You should freely say “fuck.” 4. AMBITION: Take up space and own it. 5. POWER: Aspire to have it. 6. VIOLENCE: Do not hesitate to choose vawulence. 7. LUST: …