Let’s talk about Social Media and Feminism. If there is something Nigerian women should be grateful for, it is the ability to share our thoughts via Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok. I mean, the chances that anybody harms you is next to nothing. You can be anonymous. Feminism in Nigeria gained momentum because of Social […]
Beauty standards are insane. Before we started keeping up with the Kardashians, Brazilian Butt Lift was not so popularised. I remember trying to do everything in my power to grow my butt. Like, I was busy doing squats and I can’t forget the day I almost fell in a banking hall because my thighs were
BRIDE PRICE is referred to as lobola in the southern parts of the continent, mahari in East Africa, wine carrying among tribes in West Africa, and owó orí among the tribe I come from (Yoruba). I remember quite well how my Yoruba teacher gave me my first lessons on marriage customs and traditions in
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An average number of ten thousand cases of rape occur every day in Nigeria only. While 5% sought help, just 3.8% got help. Most of these rape victims that AREN’T DEAD struggle with depression and other kinds of mental health related problems due to stigmatisation. Why are my emphasis on these numbers, you might want
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I hate bras. And I’m pretty sure I’m not the only woman who always wonders exactly WHY bras are made some sort of necessities in every woman’s wardrobe. I believe no woman would find any need to be wearing bras right now but for patriarchy that’s obsessed with controlling women’s bodies; always telling
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Sometimes this year, something similar to this 12k restaurant saga also happened to me. It was the first time and I was calm throughout because luckily, I had backup. I don’t care if we’re meeting in an open space or whatever. As long as I’m meeting someone with a penis, with anyone who identifies
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I get “you don’t look Yoruba” a lot and I’d go: “Oh, it’s because I’m mixed but my father is dead”. It’s not factually true but it saves me a lot of stress and awkwardness on the listener’s part because I’m not ashamed of my story, I’m not the one who would feel awkward.
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THE SEVEN NECESSARY SINS FOR WOMEN AND GIRLS. 1. ANGER: You must be very angry at patriarchy. 2. ATTENTION: Command attention, you deserve it. 3. PROFANITY: You should freely say “fuck.” 4. AMBITION: Take up space and own it. 5. POWER: Aspire to have it. 6. VIOLENCE: Do not hesitate to choose vawulence. 7. LUST:
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Humans have a very weird relationship with money and women’s bodies and this is how. Humans woke up one day, decided to give pieces of papers values and categorized people as “rich” or “poor” based on the amount of these pieces of paper they have. Calling money “pieces of paper” has stripped money of
Oftentimes, I have wondered if societal constructs are stifling or are much needed to create order in our society. I have wondered if the advantages of these constructs outweigh their disadvantages? And that’s just by the way. The main focus on which I will like to zoom in my lens are three different versions
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