The mythology of the good man has long been upheld as proof that patriarchy can coexist with kindness. Yet it is, in fact, impossible for a man socialized within patriarchy to be automatically and intrinsically good. At best, he performs goodness in ways that still uphold the hierarchy beneath. As bell hooks argues in […]
Good Cop, Bad Cop: Demystifying the “Good Men” Read More »
Priscilla Ojo Mbakala is the new Annie in the making; the poster child for the only choices patriarchy allows women to make while constantly lying and giving women the illusions that it’s our choices to make and not mandatory societal rules for us to follow. With all my heart, I only wish she does
ARE PATRIARCHAL CHOICES REALLY OUR CHOICES? Read More »
Motherhood is the most hypocritically celebrated construct. A million mother’s days per year. Oh women are so strong as they suffer so much for their children. In fact, the hallmark of a good mother is the one that suffers a lot, otherwise, are you a real mother without that suffer suffer ingredient?
MOTHERHOOD IS A MANDATED UNPAID THANKLESS LABOUR FOR WOMEN Read More »
What I’m about to write is most likely going to make you mad almost to the point of wanting to unalive me. That crazed blind anger you feel towards people you don’t even know as if they have hurt you or other people for cheating, when indeed they have NOT. The anger has
THE INSANITY OF ROMANTIC OWNERSHIP Read More »
Pre-script: Since I got back to writing about feminism again, I have really learnt how to have hard conversations. It sometimes feel like walking on eggshells, but I think as humans we have to learn to walk on eggshells and break those figurative eggshells to be better humans and to get out of our artificial
BETWEEN DECENTERING MEN AND HATING MEN (2) Read More »
Beyond hot takes and joining trending conversations, it is important that we draw sober lessons from this collective experience, not out superiority or vindictiveness, but out of empathy and equality. 1. Love is not continual sacrifice by one person. Don’t normalize pain. Suffering is not a virtue. Endurance is not a virtue. Your freedom
LESSONS FROM ANNIE Read More »
When I was with this guy as a teenager/in my early twenties, where I drew the line was he hitting me. He never did hit me, but he messed me up on so many fronts. He messed up my self esteem, he manipulated me, he gaslit me into thinking I was crazy and undesirable, he
I DON’T BELONG TO THE BITS AND PIECES OF THE WORLD Read More »
Special Ops: Lioness I stopped watching this movie because it’s just bullshit wrapped up as “feminism.” It’s liberal feminism plus US nationalist and capitalist propaganda. Femme fatale or using women to invade other countries, neo-colonise them and steal their resources under the guise of “protecting” those countries is nonsense. The US can’t even
CHILDBIRTH & RAISING CHILDREN SHOULD BE PAID FOR Read More »
The marriage institution is built basically on the exploitation of women, it is a sham, and a smokescreen to exploit women of their economic values. And it is sold as a “must have” for all women. When the Russian revolution failed, we would see that Stalin relegated women from the factories back to homes
THE SMALLEST HANDCUFF IN THE WORLD IS A RING Read More »
In France, the feminists here have fought for the right of women to not be judged or known by their marital status. The argument is that a man is always MR (Monsieur), and you don’t have to know whether they’re married or not. Why should women have to make their marital status known then? And
PATRIARCHY IS NOT A PERSON Read More »