Beyond hot takes and joining trending conversations, it is important that we draw sober lessons from this collective experience, not out superiority or vindictiveness, but out of empathy and equality. 1. Love is not continual sacrifice by one person. Don’t normalize pain. Suffering is not a virtue. Endurance is not a virtue. Your freedom […]
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When I was with this guy as a teenager/in my early twenties, where I drew the line was he hitting me. He never did hit me, but he messed me up on so many fronts. He messed up my self esteem, he manipulated me, he gaslit me into thinking I was crazy and undesirable, he
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This book contains raw passion, unfiltered anger, and a daring boldness at the gross injustice of enslaving women with their own bodies! Are you curious about anything related to abortion? Are you sexually active? Do you have a sense of justice? Do you hate being told what you can and cannot
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I will explain, as simple as possible, the difference between individualistic and systemic solution using myself as an example. I’m a feminist, a rad one at that, but the extent of its protection of me is still limited so much that it didn’t protect me from being harassed, or cat-called on the streets or
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There should be the understanding that women don’t need to be nice, kind, decent, smart, strong, angelic, have each other’s back even, before we deserve equality. Women don’t have to love one another before we deserve equality, the fact that we are people is enough justification. We don’t have to prove anything. AT ALL. “Women
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In France, the feminists here have fought for the right of women to not be judged or known by their marital status. The argument is that a man is always MR (Monsieur), and you don’t have to know whether they’re married or not. Why should women have to make their marital status known then? And
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Learn self-defense. Here we have a female soldier getting raped and locked in a casket and stripped naked and recorded. Have your own money, be popular, decenter men. Here we have Tiwa Savage still being recorded in a most vulnerable moment and for months, I watched her trying every means to get
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For this article to be understood, we need to stand on the premise of ideologies shaping societal structures. And in this instance, I’d like to write about the ideology of patriarchy. An ideology doesn’t just affect one demography, it affects everybody. And that means there is patriarchy in everybody irrespective of their gender identity, and
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There was a friend I had in secondary school between JSS1 and JSS2. She was tall and definitely “did not look like a woman.” She looked very strong, sinewy, tough and would have been more muscular if she went to the gym. She was VERY fast on the field where we played during break time
I read about an Instagram model that was ready to file a lawsuit against Aubrey Drake Graham, a Canadian rapper, singer, and actor who allegedly had poured hot pepper in a condom after use to kill the sperm. She (the model) went to the bathroom to take some sperm for her use only to feel
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