There’s an unspoken societal rule that asks for women to either be Madonna or a whore. I recently realized there’s actually a psychological theorem around it: The Madonna-whore complex. Generally, women are supposed to be prudes and therefore deserving of respect, or very sexually attractive/active and don’t inherently deserve respect. Women can’t be both […]
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I will explain, as simple as possible, the difference between individualistic and systemic solution using myself as an example. I’m a feminist, a rad one at that, but the extent of its protection of me is still limited so much that it didn’t protect me from being harassed, or cat-called on the streets or
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There should be the understanding that women don’t need to be nice, kind, decent, smart, strong, angelic, have each other’s back even, before we deserve equality. Women don’t have to love one another before we deserve equality, the fact that we are people is enough justification. We don’t have to prove anything. AT ALL. “Women
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In France, the feminists here have fought for the right of women to not be judged or known by their marital status. The argument is that a man is always MR (Monsieur), and you don’t have to know whether they’re married or not. Why should women have to make their marital status known then? And
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If it were up to me, marriage would have been disbanded until we have proper policies/ laws to protect women. Earlier on, I was listening to a certain woman narrating how her ex husband chopped her hands off and almost burnt her to death. What really annoys me is the fact that she’s been seeking
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Learn self-defense. Here we have a female soldier getting raped and locked in a casket and stripped naked and recorded. Have your own money, be popular, decenter men. Here we have Tiwa Savage still being recorded in a most vulnerable moment and for months, I watched her trying every means to get
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For this article to be understood, we need to stand on the premise of ideologies shaping societal structures. And in this instance, I’d like to write about the ideology of patriarchy. An ideology doesn’t just affect one demography, it affects everybody. And that means there is patriarchy in everybody irrespective of their gender identity, and
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I can only draw one conclusion for people who hound others to get married; and it is that they have never been lucky enough to be happy. Their lives have been so full of misery; so much that they believe happiness can only be got with another person yoked to them by the government.
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Conversations around women’s bodies and the idea of the ‘perfect victim’. … Last week Sunday, a medical students’ association WhatsApp group I am on had a discussion about a video of a young woman who on dressing “indecently” was harassed by a group of men while one guy tried fending off her harassors and she
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Heterosexual men have been taught and learned to depend on women to help them express their emotions. Many of us are unable to feel emotionally alive except through relationships with women. Perfect breeding for codependency & one of the reasons patriarchy loves women submitting. We use women to validate our masculinity and that contributes