My friend, Grace (not real name); Her mother died a few years ago. Grace is from Nsukka, Northern Igbo land in Nigeria. Before her mother died, she acted as though she was mentally ill. Rumor had it that her mother slept with other men aside from her husband and just before dying, she was made […]
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I get “you don’t look Yoruba” a lot and I’d go: “Oh, it’s because I’m mixed but my father is dead”. It’s not factually true but it saves me a lot of stress and awkwardness on the listener’s part because I’m not ashamed of my story, I’m not the one who would feel awkward.
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I’m going to be 27 soon (27? Honestly, I feel so younger than that!) and this year, my heart is just full. I am happy about my life, I am grateful for my lessons, I’m very grateful for the people who have come into my life (and gone). I used to hate that I’m
Oftentimes, I have wondered if societal constructs are stifling or are much needed to create order in our society. I have wondered if the advantages of these constructs outweigh their disadvantages? And that’s just by the way. The main focus on which I will like to zoom in my lens are three different versions
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I’m glad that my happiness is not dependent on how one person uses their genitals sha. I remember those darks days when I would literally lose my mind just on the suspicion or confirmation that someone was “cheating” on me. Cheating kwa. Is it MY genital? How can it be called
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Away from the jokes and banters; what that man, whose pregnant wife was exercising her body autonomy right by having sex with her own vagina with another man, did is WRONG. You recorded two people naked, WITHOUT their consent and posted it online! Their nakedness is all over the internet for life! Who
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Whenever I write about polyamory or sexual freedom, a lot of people take one admitting to be polyamorous to mean they could ask to be part of that polyamorous relationship or sexual freedom to mean “I’d like to fuck everybody that wants to fuck me!” I understand that consciousness takes some time before it
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