From 30, it has been changed to 33+ women.
Before, the society would tell women at 30 their lives are over. We are old cargoes. We’re shriveled. Nobody wants us et cetera.
NOW, it has been shifted to 33+ 🤣
Mais pourquoi ?
Thank you mighty kings for giving us more time fkn ijots.
It’s easy to come online and bash patriarchy and whatnots but the thing is tó bá kọjú sí ẹ kóo tá. Tó bá kọ̀yín sí e kọ́o táa, tó bá wáá ku ìwọ nìkan, kí o tún èrò ará ẹ pa.
At the end of the day, you have to know who you are. You have to know what you want. You have to know what you live for. You have to set your own standards. You have to get out of the matrix.
Otherwise you’d be miserable every second of your life.
You’d be led by the nose and keep chasing unrealistic standards, you’d keep trying to measure up. You’d keep trying to fit in and be accepted by a society that is made up of people with low self-esteem themselves.
Today you’d be afraid to be 30, and just like that they say it’s 33+ and you’d be running helter skelter again.
Who are these people? And why do you want to give other people that much power over yourself?
Today you want to be thick, whatever that means. Tomorrow you want to be slim. Today they tell you to do BBL, tomorrow you’re busy snapping pictures and telling the world you’re now slim and in the gym.
I’ve met people who seemingly have everything and are perfect just the way they are but they still live in the cage of other people’s opinions and even project that insecurity and feeling of unworthiness on you by trying to chip away at your self-esteem too. And more often than not, it’s not intentional. At least from what I’ve observed.
These people that come online and call older women unattractive and whatnots, they’re the exact kinds of men you seriously don’t want to be with even as a younger woman in her early twenties.
I was with a perfect prototype of this alpha male when I was 19 until I was around 22 and I almost lost not just my sanity but my life, my essence, my purpose, everything I could have been. This person believed in “moulding” young women, shaping them into who he’d have wanted, y’know what I mean. And my goodness, he nearly ruined my entire life.
Of course now that I’m almost 30, I’m looking at the 19 year old me and how on earth she could have been with THAT kind of person!
Of course now that I’m 29, there’s no way in hell I’d let that person come near me.
Let alone when I’m 33+
So of course these unhealed men that I’m honestly scared of would hate women in my age range.
Because we know better; we know better than to be with people as messed up as they are.
Because even if I’m not a feminist and I’m a patriarchal princess instead, even if I’m a pick me, my self preservation instinct would kick in and I would recognize men I should stay away from.
You would notice they’re not sparing patriarchal princesses in this 33+ women smear campaign, it’s because they’re attacking experiences and wisdom here. 33+ women have committed no crime other than living and accruing experiences while at it.
According to these afamails, you’re supposed to stay stagnant, never experience life, never know and unknow people, never have sex or get your heart broken until you meet THEM.
What sort of over-blown narcissistic self-importance is that?
Older women are always pitched against younger women and vice versa and honestly, nobody gets treated better or gets liked better or is more attractive than the other under patriarchy. At the end of the day, we’re the same in the eyes of patriarchy.
Patriarchy comes for us all, patriarchal men come for us all.
As a 19-25 year old is getting asked out, so also are 33+ women getting asked out. It’s a lie and an illusion that more men prefer one category of women over the other. It does NOT work that way!
It’s just a divide and rule tactic to make it seem like there’s scarcity of love or attention or whatnots.
These things are never scarce. If anything, it’s these afamails that lack love and logically, who would want to be with these kinds of people?
Of course there’s someone for everyone but imagine the kind of person that would want to be with them? Broken. Soulless. Dead inside.
Why else do you think they rant day in day out if they apparently have the exact women they want in their lives? If they have love and attention and they’re satisfied with their lives? Why are they always on 33+ women’s case if these “young bloods” love them for who they are?
I’m a 29 year old woman.
I’m a very fierce radical “I’m out for patriarchy’s blood” feminist.
Personally and systemic wise, I do not take crap.
Like someone said, I am very soft yet fierce.
I’m sexually free. I love sex a lot, I love luxury, I aspire to keep adding to my slay queenship, I love older men and if you’re not at least 50, fit and dress nicely, I’m honestly not attracted to you, I love boobs, I don’t want to get married, I don’t want kids.
By all means, I want a babygirl lifestyle, I’m a nudist and I have a good collection of lingeries in my closet for the sole purpose of snapping pictures in them, stopping midway to masturbate because my own body arouses me, continue to snap the pictures and then post online. I love being a cam girl and streaming and showing people my nipples. I love people enjoying my body. I’m thinking of removing my uterus but I haven’t really come to a conclusion yet.
I can just wake up someday and go “hmm, today I’d like to be a couple’s sex toy and sugar baby”.
There are a lot more but with the few I’ve mentioned, I’m supposed to be alone. I’m supposed to be miserable because how can a woman live like that? I’m 29 and I don’t have an ozzban and no kids! Oh gawdddd 😭😭😭
Nobody is supposed to want me.
I should be lonely and crying on the social media everyday. I should be hating younger women in their early twenties because they have these afamail’s attention while I don’t.
I should be begging someone to be with me.
My happiness doesn’t matter.
My freedom doesn’t matter.
Feeling so powerful because I feel so in charge of my life doesn’t matter.
None of who I am and what I have and every cause I’ve tried to push would matter just because I don’t have some category of unhealed, angry and hateful men on my case.
Now you see how ridiculous that sounds?
The society is very good at illusions and lies.
So you’d be living a very miserable life if you’re always led by the nose.
The system will NEVER let you feel that you’re enough.
Even if you have an amazing self-esteem, you have to defend that self-esteem every second of your life!
The category of men who are attractive that at least I would want never come on the social media so full of hate everyday. They’re mostly silent or otherwise trying to make the world a better place both offline and online, they’re kind, they’re trying to heal. They’re trying to match my frequency and I love them very much.
These afamails scare me a lot and I’m very sure while I don’t speak for all women, at least the category of women that want to be happy and free wouldn’t want to be around them too.
With everything I am, you would expect that they too would never want to touch me with a long pole but my goodness, I’m the one constantly having to block them out! A quote says He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage and my goodness it’s so true!!! They mostly don’t want the broken ones. They rant everyday because of the uncaged ones, the free ones, the wild ones.
And it looks like even the unhealed pick mes don’t want them too otherwise they wouldn’t have time to be leading this hateful smear campaign against other women. They’d be busy enjoying their paradise, no?
It is very unfair what patriarchy has done to men. That men are not raised to be confident, or feel wanted or attractive in their own right.
Men’s confidence is made to be dependent on women being broken.
And so every woman these men come across that is not broken, that is wild, that is free not only triggers them but also scares the shit out of them and they freak out, even when you’ve done nothing other than be yourself.
I would know because I’m wild and bold and free.
And they take solace in the idea that at least men still fuck me, or date me or control me. No matter how free I am, they still hold on to the illusory idea that at least some man in my life could have controlled me if he wanted to, he’s just choosing not to and therefore has “allowed” me to be free.
Even when they know, deep down, this isn’t true, they hold on to their version of truth for dear life otherwise their whole lives would be shattered, their belief system would be shattered and they’d go through existential crises.
It’s not fair at all, this patriarchy, to everyone irrespective of the gender. Why should other people’s freedom scare you so much?
Which is why we really need to come together and fight it.
One of the reasons I’m glad to be CHILD-FREE is I wouldn’t have to watch my kids be broken by the system, especially my boy child. It would break me seeing my child on social media ranting everyday about 33+ women.
These afamails are examples of one of the reasons I don’t want children.
Having my child being one, using his time to bash women who have done absolutely nothing to him… Bro, I would have a heart attack.
And remember to use 24 hours everyday to fight the patriarchy!
Aluta continua.
Written by Sisí Afrika
Paris, France.
